Beautiful essay. I believe we each have at least three identities:

1. The person we think we are (this can change based on our reaction to what we see in the mirror).

2. The person other individuals think we are/how they seen us.

3. The person we were born to be, our true identity buried within.

Few things in life are harder than divorce, yet the long struggle does help you discover that hidden true identity. Just be kind and patient and bless you!